About two years ago, I met a mid-single man that at a party that someone from the Potomac Ward was having. I thought he was attractive.. but I was dating someone.. I also thought that he was out of my league as far as attractiveness goes.. I unlike other mid-singles in this area own several mirrors and know how to use them to assess what I like look...
So anyway..this guy went on too date someone for a long time and I continued to see him around while they were dating at parties and at church social events..
Every time I saw him he was very cordial with me and made small talk..
Now I am not dating anyone and he is not dating anyone.. and according to the looks of the last girl he dated .. maybe he WOULD go on a date with me.. but I am not even going to ask him or make a play..
you know why? BECAUSE THIS DUDE CAN NOT HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH ME... I am serious...
This is a variation of the conversation that I have had with him now for a little over two years:
Him: "Hey Keli, how are you, good to see you"
Me: "good to see you too..how are things with you?
Him: "fine, how is your dog?"
Me: "fine"
then he will JUST SIT THERE... I am serious.. like he will come and sit down near me... or by me and for a second I think WOW.. this guy is HOT and he is sitting by ME and talking to ME.. which he did even when he had a serious GF.. but then after he asks me about my dog.. well that is about all.. but he does not move or leave he just sits there.. and is like well so anything new...
then I will relate WHATEVER story I have to say and this guy will JUST SIT THERE AND LOOK AT ME... like um.. I have no idea if
he is listening... or if he CARES.. of if I am BORING him.. or if he thinks I am FUNNY or an idiot or WHAT...because his face does NOT change expression.. at all..it is like I am talking to a blank wall... and then I don't know WHAT to do or say .. like how do I conclude this.. like um... so yeah .. that is what happened... um yeah...
At the 2012 Potomac Ward Christmas Party he sat down by me and asked me how my dog was.. and then asked me how other things were.. I told him a story and he just sat there through out the whole thing..and then just kept sitting there.. like um...
NO MATTER WHAT I DO OR SAY .. he will not say ANYTHING MORE THAN ONE WORD ANSWERS ABOUT HIMSELF..and does not comment.. on anything else that I say.. he just stares...and sits there...
after I had told two stories and got not even an expression I was like ..."well I gotta go.." and left my friend sitting there at the table with him.. like um have a nice talk ya'all...
So I am done.. it is just too uncomfortable to just sit there and rattle on and on.. while he just stares right through me...like um OK.. I mean how do you learn to have a conversation or learn to talk to people when you are already in your late thirties..?? IDK...
AND I HEARD HE IS ADDICTED TO PORNOGRAPHY.. someone in my ward told me that.. so that is not confirmed.. but did it BURN his BRAIN or something..??
So anyway..this guy went on too date someone for a long time and I continued to see him around while they were dating at parties and at church social events..
Every time I saw him he was very cordial with me and made small talk..
Now I am not dating anyone and he is not dating anyone.. and according to the looks of the last girl he dated .. maybe he WOULD go on a date with me.. but I am not even going to ask him or make a play..
you know why? BECAUSE THIS DUDE CAN NOT HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH ME... I am serious...
This is a variation of the conversation that I have had with him now for a little over two years:
Him: "Hey Keli, how are you, good to see you"
Me: "good to see you too..how are things with you?
Him: "fine, how is your dog?"
Me: "fine"
then he will JUST SIT THERE... I am serious.. like he will come and sit down near me... or by me and for a second I think WOW.. this guy is HOT and he is sitting by ME and talking to ME.. which he did even when he had a serious GF.. but then after he asks me about my dog.. well that is about all.. but he does not move or leave he just sits there.. and is like well so anything new...
then I will relate WHATEVER story I have to say and this guy will JUST SIT THERE AND LOOK AT ME... like um.. I have no idea if
he is listening... or if he CARES.. of if I am BORING him.. or if he thinks I am FUNNY or an idiot or WHAT...because his face does NOT change expression.. at all..it is like I am talking to a blank wall... and then I don't know WHAT to do or say .. like how do I conclude this.. like um... so yeah .. that is what happened... um yeah...
At the 2012 Potomac Ward Christmas Party he sat down by me and asked me how my dog was.. and then asked me how other things were.. I told him a story and he just sat there through out the whole thing..and then just kept sitting there.. like um...
NO MATTER WHAT I DO OR SAY .. he will not say ANYTHING MORE THAN ONE WORD ANSWERS ABOUT HIMSELF..and does not comment.. on anything else that I say.. he just stares...and sits there...
after I had told two stories and got not even an expression I was like ..."well I gotta go.." and left my friend sitting there at the table with him.. like um have a nice talk ya'all...
So I am done.. it is just too uncomfortable to just sit there and rattle on and on.. while he just stares right through me...like um OK.. I mean how do you learn to have a conversation or learn to talk to people when you are already in your late thirties..?? IDK...
AND I HEARD HE IS ADDICTED TO PORNOGRAPHY.. someone in my ward told me that.. so that is not confirmed.. but did it BURN his BRAIN or something..??
2 comments:
Maybe he's crazy about you and gets so much anxiety that he just freezes up. Idk...hard to say without knowing the guy personally...
As for the pornography thing, I'd be careful making that assessment without knowing more. I know you said it wasn't confirmed, etc.
I just know when i got separated and divorced that a lot of acquaintances and even some friends of mine assumed or drew the conclusion that my ex wouldn't have divorced me unless i was abusive, addicted to porn, doing drugs, or gambling all of our money away when nothing could be further from the truth. All that it takes is for one person to say that they thought you must be addicted to porn or they heard that you were,(and in my case my divorce had to be the proof) and before you know it, you've been convicted by the court of public opinion.
Not saying you need to give the guy some more chances, maybe he really doesn't have any social skills, and no reasonable excuse as to why he can't ask you any questions beyond your dog, but maybe he does. Who knows.
I agree with everything that you said.. I feel like he is just a boring person that does not know how to have a conversation.. and I am not interested in dating a boring person.. I don't want to be bored my whole life!
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