I went to the Potomac Ward for church a couple of Sunday's in December 2012. While I was there, a guy introduced myself and my friend to another guy.. that he said had "just got baptized"
My friend and I told him that we were both converts also and congratulated him on his decision to join the church.
We then asked him what he did for a living..He said that "he wanted to get into politics" and he was very involved in politics" So we asked what do you want to do regarding that..He said that he wanted to campaign for people and wanted to get involved in the "grass roots" of politics and get involved on a local level...
I said " oh then, were you involved with the campaign of Tim Kaine and Barack Obama?" He said who is Tim Kaine? I said " the guy that just became a senator in VA" ..He said " I don't know who that is...
He said DEFINTILY NOT BARACK OBAMA!!! ( I did not think so..but well sometimes I like to stir the pot)
He then started telling me and my friend.. all of the reasons why he does not like President Obama..reasons like
he is anti-white
he is a terrorist..
and he even brought up that preacher he associated with....I have not even HEARD that argument since he LAST time that President Obama ran for president..
I said "wow next thing I know, you are going to be telling me that he does not have a birth certificate"...
Him and my friend got in this heated discussion.. and he was like "you don't have your facts straight" and "if we would just read about President Obama" blah blah blah...
So I said " LISTEN IT IS THE SABBATH!! and we are in a CHURCH and we are grateful that you accepted the gospel of Jesus Christ into your life..and that you have a testimony of that.. that is what is important.. I then bore a very short testimony...
So the guy that introduced us then jumped in the middle of us and said " WE BETTER SPLIT THESE TWO UP!!!!" because they might fight..
it was very strange.. like um ? what? So the guy walked away.. and because he is an attractive man he was immediatly swarmed by women that wanted to talk to him..
and I did not think anything more about it.
Then a couple of days later it was New Years Eve.. I spent forever getting ready for the dance.. I spent forever getting my hair just right.. I must have changed my outfit five times.. and I watched and copied a make up tutorial on youtube.. and when I went to the dance I got a lot of compliments people said " I looked very pretty" and "they liked my hair, make-up and outfit"
when it was almost midnight.. people from the Potomac ward started pouring in there.. this guy was among them.. I said " hi" to him
and that was all..then later one of my friends came up to me and said.. this guy said that "you look really pretty tonight" and that he wanted you to have his business card"... It was the political guy... I said " I look pretty TONIGHT!" He just saw me at church like a couple of days ago and had NO INTREST IN ME...like no intrest in talking to me.. and he did not even give me a second look but TONIGHT he thinks I look pretty.. when I spent forever getting ready... well that is nice..but um.. I barely ever look like this.. and I thought that I looked nice at church the other day.. and if he was not into me then.. well I don't even know..
so the girl came up to me again.. and said.. " that guy feels really bad that he made a bad impression on you and he wants you to have his business card.. " I said " OK fine" ...
So then the guy himself came up to me while I was taking pictures with all my friends and kissing all the guys on the cheek for New Years.. and gave me another business card.. and said he was so sorry that he had made a bad impression on me at church.. and that he just had to take me out on a date... ..he just had too..I said you can add me on FB.. he said " no I just have to have your phone number... so I gave it to him.. and I had to write it down because he said that he wanted it written.. then he asked again if he could take me on a date..
I said "sure" and asked him to pose in a picture with me...because I was getting pictures with everyone..
I did not want to go on a date with him.. I can't put my finger on WHY I did not.. I mean he is a nice looking man.. and dresses well.. I just did not want to go...
But everytime that I tell people I decline dates I get all this junk like " I am too picky" or " I need to give people a chance" or " How do I know" or "consider it a practice date"....
1. I know because I have been dating since I was 15.. and I am usually smart enough to pick up what someone is putting down.
2. since I have been dating since I was 15.. I don't need to go on a practice date...
so a couple of days later he called me and asked me out.. .I was busy that weekend.. so we set a time during the week...
I did not want to go.. I felt this overwhelming feeling like I am just not into him.. I looked up his website on the internet.. and saw that he had not updated it since July 2012..who passes out business cards with something that they don't even update..
I looked on his FB and his profile picture was two years old.. and all his posts I could see were crazy republican/anti-obama rhetoric...
great.. just great...
I really wanted to cancel..but this guy I know said no don't cancel.. that is so rude!! so I did not..
so we met at the 23rd st. building.. he was over a half hour late.. he did text me and he told me that the tennis lesson that he was teaching ran over..
When I got there.. and got in his car.. he said "where should we go for dinner" I said that "I was up for anything" He said "well I am not going to Chili's because they suck" I said " well we better not go there then.."
So we went to some italian restaraunt on 23rd st..
this is a synopsis of the conversations that we had there
1. he said that he was a tennis teacher
2. he has a five page plan about things he wants to do in the future to make money.. and to implement in his life to bring him success...and once he starts on this five page plan .. then he will make lots of money...dude is in his early 40s..
3. He wants to be involved with local politics and grass roots because he has GOT TO GET AHEAD OF THE GAME FOR THAT NEXT ELECTION... because he HAS TO MAKE SURE THAT THE REPUBLICANS KEEP THE HOUSE!!!!!! I asked him what he was doing regarding this.. and if he had worked on the election we JUST HAD...he said no...that he had not...he meant to and it was very important to him.. but he had just not.. but in his five page plan he WOULD work on the next one...
4. he is disappointed that people THIS CLOSE TO DC are not more into politics... he is surprised that more people at church do not talk politics...because he wants to talk about them ALL THE TIME...he said that is the ONLY REASON he moved this close to DC because he wanted to be more involved with politics... even though he did NOTHING for the last election.. and my goodness I know they needed him...
5. He wants to move to a swing state... and then the swingiest part of that state.. and go out and campaign for what is RIGHT... I said I thought that Northern VA WAS the swingiest part of this state.. I mean I know Richmond and Hampton Rds.. too..but I thought it was like that here... he said that VA was not swing enough for him.. maybe he will move to FL.. that is part of his five page plan.. he may implement....
I asked him how he found the church... he said that he was talking a long time to this one girl that he taught tennis to and she said " how do you find peace in your life?" and he said that he did not know..and he had tried a lot of churchs and none seemed right...she said "well you should give our church a try"
at this moment I was feeling like the worse member missionary EVER!!!! like wow.. I need to invite more people to church...
then he said that she said" yeah she wanted me to come to the Potomac ward.. because she said that there were a lot of attractive ladies there and I would like it and have good luck"
then I felt like the best member missionary ever ...because I sure as heck have NEVER invited anyone to church.."because they might have good luck with the opposite sex"....no I would prefer if people converted because they have a testimony of Jesus Christ...
so back to stuff he talked about
6. He said that he joined our church in fall 2012.. (when it looked like Mitt Romney might win)....and he liked it.. because "there were a lot of cool people" and he has "met a lot of cool friends"
7. He said that one of the reasons he joined was "all the republicans and attrative ladies"
8. He was also glad that our church was not "family oriented" like most churchs where everyone is married and has kids.. and gives him a hard time for being in his 40s and living with roommates.. and not really having a career...but at our church no one cares if he gets married.. he can just be himself.................o.m.gosh..what...
he said that he will get a career soon when he implements his five page plan..then he will be a success...
I asked him if he had ever been married, or had any children
He said that he had just finished dating someone in the Potomac Ward a couple of days ago.. and he told me who it was...here is what he said about her..
1. she was not right for him because she was only a A- and well he is NOT going to settle for a A-... I said at this point you will be lucky if you get a C... just an average C.. I mean I would be happy with a C.. nobody is perfect.. and if she is an A- well you better call her up.. and see if you can work it out...he said .. no because she said I am only an A- for her too.. and well..no.. and also she went away for the holidays and did not invite him so "whatever"
I said that dating is hard.. and that I had been dating someone but it was not really serious.. and that I am dating other people (obviously)..he was not to happy to hear that...
so while we were at the restaraunt he refused to order anything off the menu..and said that he wanted "just penne" with "red sauce"....
they charged him almost $20 for that...he could have invited me over for dinner and made penne with red sauce...
so after dinner he said that we could now "go somewhere and talk" I said that I could not, because I had to go over to someones house..and get my calander I had left there"
He was not happy... when we got back to my car.. I said I had a "nice time" and thanks for dinner and "good luck with everything" and got out...
then I was driving down the road.. and I get this text from him and it said "that was ridiculous" I said "what" he said "YOU HEARD ME!" I said "he said " I HOPE THAT YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOUR SELF ABOUT IGNORING ME!!!!" I said "um" he said that I looked at my plate the WHOLE time .. and that I IGNORED HIM .. and that was not OK.. I said..."well I am sorry that you feel that way...but...my phone is about to die"
I almost cried..it kinda shook me up..what a jerk!!! I mean seriously...he was just mad because he is good looking and most LDS girls probably fall all over him and well I did not.. oh well...
so the next day I wake up and I have a text from him that came in at 6:15 AM and it said
"hahahahahahhahahahah" I did not respond to that...
then a few hours later I am sitting at work and I get several texts that said
1. I was very rude, I did not look at him at the restaraunt and I looked at my plate more.. and I DESTROYED HIS EGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
.... I knew it...come on he is in his 40s and NOT MARRIED.. you can't TELL me that another girl has not been disinterested in him...come on..
2. that he IS GOING TO BE GOING PLACES IN LIFE!!! and NOW BECAUSE OF LAST NIGHT.. I AM NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO GO THOSE PLACES WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and I will miss out!!!!!!
um Ok.. my loss.. he is in his early 40s he should already BE SOMEPLACE...
3. that I am never going to get married... because I never going to find a "sap" that fits all my hefty requirements...which he does not know what they are since I did not tell him...
4. good riddance and he hopes he never sees me again...
um to bad buddy.. I am not going to stop going to singles activities...
he ended this with a smily face!!!! the audacity...
I replied... "OK"
he said "that is all you got"..."you read all those books and you are so smart and that is all you got!!!!"
I said "yes"
and he has not text me again.. I told my co-workers and they were like WHAT THE!!!?? and said things like
is he your religion???
well he obviosly does not act like he is religious!!
and please don't tell me he has your address!? he seems scary...
I agree.. I was super shook up...I mean I am sorry that I did not like you back..but did you need to attack me via text.. my goodness!!!!
so I have seen him a few times since then...my friend said he sat down next to her at church realized it was her.. got up before the sacrament was even passed and she did not see him again the whole three hour block...
one night at institute a couple of weeks ago..HE CAME AND SAT BY ME.. I was like WHAT THE??? then I realized he did not even know it was ME.. then I made a comment and he knew it was me.. and he scooted his chair back... like a whole row back.. so he no longer would have to sit with me...
because apparently he is ten years old...and can't sit next to person he does not like for even a second...
what I learned from this whole thing is NEVER again am I going to go out with a guy that I have a bad feeling about.. for whatever reason.. or that I am just not into.. I am thirty-eight I have been dating over twenty years.. I don't need practice dates.. or any of this other nonsense.. I am not going to waste my time or my gas.. or money.. or someone elses time, gas or money..if I have that gut feeling that I am not into them...like THAT not into them.. then I will just politly decline.. because well I am at my quoata for crazy experiences with men lately...
....well maybe not..because the man that introduced us.. said " I should be glad that guys like him and other guys ask me out, because the guys that do are popular" and "good-looking" and "any girl would love to go out with them" and how can it not work with these men when women are SURROUNDING THEM.. " and I should feel lucky.. and maybe I just need to make up with them.. because they are popular and cool..
um OK now. ... I have reached my quoata...
My friend and I told him that we were both converts also and congratulated him on his decision to join the church.
We then asked him what he did for a living..He said that "he wanted to get into politics" and he was very involved in politics" So we asked what do you want to do regarding that..He said that he wanted to campaign for people and wanted to get involved in the "grass roots" of politics and get involved on a local level...
I said " oh then, were you involved with the campaign of Tim Kaine and Barack Obama?" He said who is Tim Kaine? I said " the guy that just became a senator in VA" ..He said " I don't know who that is...
He said DEFINTILY NOT BARACK OBAMA!!! ( I did not think so..but well sometimes I like to stir the pot)
He then started telling me and my friend.. all of the reasons why he does not like President Obama..reasons like
he is anti-white
he is a terrorist..
and he even brought up that preacher he associated with....I have not even HEARD that argument since he LAST time that President Obama ran for president..
I said "wow next thing I know, you are going to be telling me that he does not have a birth certificate"...
Him and my friend got in this heated discussion.. and he was like "you don't have your facts straight" and "if we would just read about President Obama" blah blah blah...
So I said " LISTEN IT IS THE SABBATH!! and we are in a CHURCH and we are grateful that you accepted the gospel of Jesus Christ into your life..and that you have a testimony of that.. that is what is important.. I then bore a very short testimony...
So the guy that introduced us then jumped in the middle of us and said " WE BETTER SPLIT THESE TWO UP!!!!" because they might fight..
it was very strange.. like um ? what? So the guy walked away.. and because he is an attractive man he was immediatly swarmed by women that wanted to talk to him..
and I did not think anything more about it.
Then a couple of days later it was New Years Eve.. I spent forever getting ready for the dance.. I spent forever getting my hair just right.. I must have changed my outfit five times.. and I watched and copied a make up tutorial on youtube.. and when I went to the dance I got a lot of compliments people said " I looked very pretty" and "they liked my hair, make-up and outfit"
when it was almost midnight.. people from the Potomac ward started pouring in there.. this guy was among them.. I said " hi" to him
and that was all..then later one of my friends came up to me and said.. this guy said that "you look really pretty tonight" and that he wanted you to have his business card"... It was the political guy... I said " I look pretty TONIGHT!" He just saw me at church like a couple of days ago and had NO INTREST IN ME...like no intrest in talking to me.. and he did not even give me a second look but TONIGHT he thinks I look pretty.. when I spent forever getting ready... well that is nice..but um.. I barely ever look like this.. and I thought that I looked nice at church the other day.. and if he was not into me then.. well I don't even know..
so the girl came up to me again.. and said.. " that guy feels really bad that he made a bad impression on you and he wants you to have his business card.. " I said " OK fine" ...
So then the guy himself came up to me while I was taking pictures with all my friends and kissing all the guys on the cheek for New Years.. and gave me another business card.. and said he was so sorry that he had made a bad impression on me at church.. and that he just had to take me out on a date... ..he just had too..I said you can add me on FB.. he said " no I just have to have your phone number... so I gave it to him.. and I had to write it down because he said that he wanted it written.. then he asked again if he could take me on a date..
I said "sure" and asked him to pose in a picture with me...because I was getting pictures with everyone..
I did not want to go on a date with him.. I can't put my finger on WHY I did not.. I mean he is a nice looking man.. and dresses well.. I just did not want to go...
But everytime that I tell people I decline dates I get all this junk like " I am too picky" or " I need to give people a chance" or " How do I know" or "consider it a practice date"....
1. I know because I have been dating since I was 15.. and I am usually smart enough to pick up what someone is putting down.
2. since I have been dating since I was 15.. I don't need to go on a practice date...
so a couple of days later he called me and asked me out.. .I was busy that weekend.. so we set a time during the week...
I did not want to go.. I felt this overwhelming feeling like I am just not into him.. I looked up his website on the internet.. and saw that he had not updated it since July 2012..who passes out business cards with something that they don't even update..
I looked on his FB and his profile picture was two years old.. and all his posts I could see were crazy republican/anti-obama rhetoric...
great.. just great...
I really wanted to cancel..but this guy I know said no don't cancel.. that is so rude!! so I did not..
so we met at the 23rd st. building.. he was over a half hour late.. he did text me and he told me that the tennis lesson that he was teaching ran over..
When I got there.. and got in his car.. he said "where should we go for dinner" I said that "I was up for anything" He said "well I am not going to Chili's because they suck" I said " well we better not go there then.."
So we went to some italian restaraunt on 23rd st..
this is a synopsis of the conversations that we had there
1. he said that he was a tennis teacher
2. he has a five page plan about things he wants to do in the future to make money.. and to implement in his life to bring him success...and once he starts on this five page plan .. then he will make lots of money...dude is in his early 40s..
3. He wants to be involved with local politics and grass roots because he has GOT TO GET AHEAD OF THE GAME FOR THAT NEXT ELECTION... because he HAS TO MAKE SURE THAT THE REPUBLICANS KEEP THE HOUSE!!!!!! I asked him what he was doing regarding this.. and if he had worked on the election we JUST HAD...he said no...that he had not...he meant to and it was very important to him.. but he had just not.. but in his five page plan he WOULD work on the next one...
4. he is disappointed that people THIS CLOSE TO DC are not more into politics... he is surprised that more people at church do not talk politics...because he wants to talk about them ALL THE TIME...he said that is the ONLY REASON he moved this close to DC because he wanted to be more involved with politics... even though he did NOTHING for the last election.. and my goodness I know they needed him...
5. He wants to move to a swing state... and then the swingiest part of that state.. and go out and campaign for what is RIGHT... I said I thought that Northern VA WAS the swingiest part of this state.. I mean I know Richmond and Hampton Rds.. too..but I thought it was like that here... he said that VA was not swing enough for him.. maybe he will move to FL.. that is part of his five page plan.. he may implement....
I asked him how he found the church... he said that he was talking a long time to this one girl that he taught tennis to and she said " how do you find peace in your life?" and he said that he did not know..and he had tried a lot of churchs and none seemed right...she said "well you should give our church a try"
at this moment I was feeling like the worse member missionary EVER!!!! like wow.. I need to invite more people to church...
then he said that she said" yeah she wanted me to come to the Potomac ward.. because she said that there were a lot of attractive ladies there and I would like it and have good luck"
then I felt like the best member missionary ever ...because I sure as heck have NEVER invited anyone to church.."because they might have good luck with the opposite sex"....no I would prefer if people converted because they have a testimony of Jesus Christ...
so back to stuff he talked about
6. He said that he joined our church in fall 2012.. (when it looked like Mitt Romney might win)....and he liked it.. because "there were a lot of cool people" and he has "met a lot of cool friends"
7. He said that one of the reasons he joined was "all the republicans and attrative ladies"
8. He was also glad that our church was not "family oriented" like most churchs where everyone is married and has kids.. and gives him a hard time for being in his 40s and living with roommates.. and not really having a career...but at our church no one cares if he gets married.. he can just be himself.................o.m.gosh..what...
he said that he will get a career soon when he implements his five page plan..then he will be a success...
I asked him if he had ever been married, or had any children
He said that he had just finished dating someone in the Potomac Ward a couple of days ago.. and he told me who it was...here is what he said about her..
1. she was not right for him because she was only a A- and well he is NOT going to settle for a A-... I said at this point you will be lucky if you get a C... just an average C.. I mean I would be happy with a C.. nobody is perfect.. and if she is an A- well you better call her up.. and see if you can work it out...he said .. no because she said I am only an A- for her too.. and well..no.. and also she went away for the holidays and did not invite him so "whatever"
I said that dating is hard.. and that I had been dating someone but it was not really serious.. and that I am dating other people (obviously)..he was not to happy to hear that...
so while we were at the restaraunt he refused to order anything off the menu..and said that he wanted "just penne" with "red sauce"....
they charged him almost $20 for that...he could have invited me over for dinner and made penne with red sauce...
so after dinner he said that we could now "go somewhere and talk" I said that I could not, because I had to go over to someones house..and get my calander I had left there"
He was not happy... when we got back to my car.. I said I had a "nice time" and thanks for dinner and "good luck with everything" and got out...
then I was driving down the road.. and I get this text from him and it said "that was ridiculous" I said "what" he said "YOU HEARD ME!" I said "he said " I HOPE THAT YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOUR SELF ABOUT IGNORING ME!!!!" I said "um" he said that I looked at my plate the WHOLE time .. and that I IGNORED HIM .. and that was not OK.. I said..."well I am sorry that you feel that way...but...my phone is about to die"
I almost cried..it kinda shook me up..what a jerk!!! I mean seriously...he was just mad because he is good looking and most LDS girls probably fall all over him and well I did not.. oh well...
so the next day I wake up and I have a text from him that came in at 6:15 AM and it said
"hahahahahahhahahahah" I did not respond to that...
then a few hours later I am sitting at work and I get several texts that said
1. I was very rude, I did not look at him at the restaraunt and I looked at my plate more.. and I DESTROYED HIS EGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
.... I knew it...come on he is in his 40s and NOT MARRIED.. you can't TELL me that another girl has not been disinterested in him...come on..
2. that he IS GOING TO BE GOING PLACES IN LIFE!!! and NOW BECAUSE OF LAST NIGHT.. I AM NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO GO THOSE PLACES WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and I will miss out!!!!!!
um Ok.. my loss.. he is in his early 40s he should already BE SOMEPLACE...
3. that I am never going to get married... because I never going to find a "sap" that fits all my hefty requirements...which he does not know what they are since I did not tell him...
4. good riddance and he hopes he never sees me again...
um to bad buddy.. I am not going to stop going to singles activities...
he ended this with a smily face!!!! the audacity...
I replied... "OK"
he said "that is all you got"..."you read all those books and you are so smart and that is all you got!!!!"
I said "yes"
and he has not text me again.. I told my co-workers and they were like WHAT THE!!!?? and said things like
is he your religion???
well he obviosly does not act like he is religious!!
and please don't tell me he has your address!? he seems scary...
I agree.. I was super shook up...I mean I am sorry that I did not like you back..but did you need to attack me via text.. my goodness!!!!
so I have seen him a few times since then...my friend said he sat down next to her at church realized it was her.. got up before the sacrament was even passed and she did not see him again the whole three hour block...
one night at institute a couple of weeks ago..HE CAME AND SAT BY ME.. I was like WHAT THE??? then I realized he did not even know it was ME.. then I made a comment and he knew it was me.. and he scooted his chair back... like a whole row back.. so he no longer would have to sit with me...
because apparently he is ten years old...and can't sit next to person he does not like for even a second...
what I learned from this whole thing is NEVER again am I going to go out with a guy that I have a bad feeling about.. for whatever reason.. or that I am just not into.. I am thirty-eight I have been dating over twenty years.. I don't need practice dates.. or any of this other nonsense.. I am not going to waste my time or my gas.. or money.. or someone elses time, gas or money..if I have that gut feeling that I am not into them...like THAT not into them.. then I will just politly decline.. because well I am at my quoata for crazy experiences with men lately...
....well maybe not..because the man that introduced us.. said " I should be glad that guys like him and other guys ask me out, because the guys that do are popular" and "good-looking" and "any girl would love to go out with them" and how can it not work with these men when women are SURROUNDING THEM.. " and I should feel lucky.. and maybe I just need to make up with them.. because they are popular and cool..
um OK now. ... I have reached my quoata...
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